Dilemma

July 17, 2007 at 11:35 am 14 comments

What would you do if you have a cousin , who is naughty and has lots of girl friends and doesnt pray .

then someone calls you , asking you about this cousin , because is is proposing to a girl , and they want to know if he is a good person or not.

from what I know is that this cousin told me , once he gets married , he will be a 100% straight man

Would you say the full truth about him ? bad and good .. or would you say only the good parts of him /

Or you would say , he does this and this and ruining his chance of marrying the girl he wants ?

they are actually in love , and he is going to marry her even if her family thought otherwise

what I did was saying the good parts about him only

did I do the right thing ? 

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14 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Princess  |  July 17, 2007 at 12:53 pm

    i think u did wat u had to do, because wat if u end up being the reason why a supposed “happily ever after marriage” didnt take place, but i dunno

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  • 2. yara4ever  |  July 17, 2007 at 2:14 pm

    You should say ohwa my cousin o shahadti feh majro7a.. o if u asked his friends they’ll say good things of u asked his enemies they’ll say bad things.. Bas u did the right thing bil nehaaya

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  • 3. eshda3wa  |  July 17, 2007 at 3:32 pm

    if he is in love with the girl
    then i have to assume the girl probably knows hes not an angle, and i also would like to assume she has a functioning brain and can make her own desisions

    so if she wants to marry him and live with his faults, then its up to her

    you did wat u had to do

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  • 4. Peony  |  July 17, 2007 at 3:54 pm

    i think u’ve done the right thing..
    + u are his cousin, so ya3ni the girl’s family should know that you’re only gonna say the good think..
    shahadtik majro7a either way..

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  • 5. intlxpatr  |  July 17, 2007 at 5:44 pm

    It sounds like they have already made up their minds, in which case you are off the hook. There is always a chance he will be a good family man in spite of his past . .

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  • 6. dandash  |  July 18, 2007 at 1:22 am

    u did what u had to do coz inside u k ow that he is going to change,, infact now noboday is telling the truth they say it b3d elmalcha and leave it up to u i hav heard so many storys some the go out b4 its too late some got divorce some get married !!
    so dont fell gulity about it u did the right thing

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  • 7. ahmad.TV  |  July 18, 2007 at 11:54 am

    From what your saying he surely loves her, and he’s saying that he’ll be a better guy after marriage.. I don’t see why you should say the bad things .. Your role is to bring them closer to each other, mention how a good man he is.

    except etha ma esali at all, then i think you should note that .. and say that im hoping your daughter will keep him on track with his salats

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  • 8. Mekhtelef  |  July 18, 2007 at 7:10 pm

    Sometimes it’s happen to me. Ya agool 5osh rayaal, aw agool madri 3annah . If the girls family r a little smart, they should know what’s “Madri” mean.

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  • 9. that alqrnayn  |  July 19, 2007 at 12:47 am

    sounds like u r not experinced enough with people Mr financy….

    sorry 3la al9ra7a bs hathy wghat na’6r oo atmna t7trmhaaaa

    t9arofk kan 7eel 6foly oo 7eel ‘3aby ako wa7d yswe chethee??!! .. almfro’6 tgool al9eg lana god is gonna judge you 4 what u did lank ant the only one ank tt7amal thanbha at last if she got divorced …. think as a man and be brave in teln the truth Mr financy….

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  • 10. Me  |  July 19, 2007 at 5:13 pm

    HI,

    I don’t like the habite of keping a replay on webz but felt like must keeping something in here, i believe you did a big mistake MR.FINANCY cuz when ppl refer back 2 a person 2 ask whatever question about anything “THEY TRUST” i believe that they came to you cause you probably know your cousin more than any person does! simply they’ve trusted u! even if he want to change and lets assume it “soon” we as humans never trust that tmw will come or even would be as what we wanted or expected! sorry but i didn’t expect that a person in such situation will not say the truth! even if the girl wants him and love him, i think that she will except him as he is and even if her family wont agree at the end everybody knows that we are all humans and we are all not perfect and has lot of weaknesses! sorry but you didn’t do the right thing and this reaction won’t help your cousin to be straigth cause he is getting what he wants by your support ! ahal elbent malhm thanb enk matgol el9dg! thanbhm enhm withgaw fily sm3ooh ! o 6abe3y weld el3am agrab elnas o ra7 egol eldg! allah y3een !

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  • 11. EniGma  |  July 19, 2007 at 9:55 pm

    Most people do bad things in their life and get stop when they get married. It’s called 6aish shabab. The opposite is true, a good person ba3dain yekhtereb later in his life.

    As long as he’s not an alcoholic and on drugs and frequently goes to thailand for prostitutes, then there was no need to say these things about him. If you believe in your heart that he is a good person (despite the mistakes he made, and everybody makes them), then you did the right thing.

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  • 12. Ajeez  |  July 20, 2007 at 1:58 pm

    He might seem bad to you, as a cousin, but maybe he’s a whole different person near his soon to be wife..just saying, so bashing him as a cousin doesn’t really help or serve him or her justice..so the whole “say the truth, financy” isn’t that moral. Since being a bad friend/cousin doesn’t necessarely mean being a bad husband.

    Just sayin’ :$..

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  • 13. Whiskey  |  July 20, 2007 at 2:05 pm

    Good thing u did

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  • 14. macaholiq8  |  July 30, 2007 at 1:55 pm

    Think of him proposing to your sister, would you agree on him and his “former” acts? If yes then you did the right thing, if not then as much as you hate it for yourself you should hate it for others.

    Besides, what if he’s back to his ol’ habbit and got caught? Rest assured that, as one of those who said “He’s a good person”, you’ll be judged and your words will never be taken for granted anymore.

    And one last part… If he doesn’t pray and continues on that then the girl is “mo7arrama 3laih”. 7sab el dinya ‘3er 7sab el a5ra. :/

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